A couple of years ago I freaked my (at the time) fifteen year old son out by telling him something like, “Everyone’s minds are sick and twisted. We all have messed up minds.” His response was “Oh that’s just great,” as if to say that he didn’t have a chance in life – Like an “I should give up now,” sort of conclusion, but I wasn’t finished explaining myself.
“Son,” I continued, “what I mean is that our minds are like a labyrinth and if you stop and listen to it, you will see that it carries on and on and, sometimes takes you to terrible places. Your thoughts are nuts if you really stop and listen to them, but YOU are not your thoughts.”
This is about the time my children’s eyes begin glazing over and I have to sum up the wisdom I’m about to embark upon them so that they don’t fade off not knowing what I’m trying to teach them. (Oh, btw, I have a twelve year old daughter too).
“YOU are an incredible being, who goes way beyond your mind. You have a brain, and a heart, which also thinks, has a magnetic field surrounding it…” (oops, losing him)… “and scientists are now discovering that the heart is also a brain, but it is so intelligent of a brain, that it does not operate by logic. It is the brain of intuition that knows all, sees all, and holds compassion rather than judgment…” Ok, so I’ve lost my son by now, but have I lost my adult audience here?
Now, my children tune me out a lot, but the proof of my own sense of who I am (the heart person, not the brain person), is strongly reflected through their trust in me, and them knowing that I’m solid in myself. When it all boils down to it, my two children know that I am the real deal. There is an underline “no-nonsense” rule with me (after several years of recovery). I no longer buy into the bullshit of my mind, and sometimes when I’m going there, they observe me moving through it quickly. This isn’t to say that I’m some super-human saint, because I’m absolutely not. It’s simply that when it comes down to it, I am able to tap into that greater place of myself that knows all, sees all and holds compassion rather than judgment.
Now, I’m not going to sit here and lie. I certainly DO judge people. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t. But the difference now, is that I know when I’m doing it, and I can finally take a step back and re-navigate from that greater place. It’s an ongoing process. I’m constantly reminding myself to stop judging, to trust in something greater than what my mind is telling me is true (i.e. there is no way I can achieve success without following certain rules of society…), to trust in the balance and abundance of the universe, and to follow my gut rather than buying into my confining fears. This magic of life is all understood by my heart, which is where we all began in the first place. The first thing that we are in this human form (besides the cells and membranes and such) is a beating heart. Our brains do not develop until long after our hearts develop. I remind myself of this when my clever little brain goes off into the maze of maddening reason, which is essential for problem solving in a pinch, but overall, I yearn to experience the fullness of my life, rather than spending time in the prison of my mind where I can make a conundrum out of the beauty of a flower.
I think a lot, but lately I’ve been learning to drop down into that greater place of myself which feels. When I am in the presence of another human being, I am listening more to my own emotions arising now than I am the words they are saying to me. I am curious to know what they are reflecting within me. I’m drawn to people who get under my skin, and also to those that bring out the best in me. What is that about? Why do some people pull out my negativity, while others bring out my unconditional love? It’s so interesting to me (but here I go thinking again)…
The bottom line is that we have a constant choice to navigate our lives through our ingenious minds, or through our precious heart center. There is a HUGE difference in how life unfolds when you begin operating from your heart center. These two are incredibly opposing forces within you. The mind is consumed with lust (for things, people, desires…), while the heart is filled with love. The mind rejects, while the heart accepts. The mind holds on, while the heart let’s go. The mind sees limitation, while the heart is boundless in nature.
You cannot tell me that we are constantly being pushed and pulled from the outside by a devil with a pitchfork, and a god who lives way out in the cosmos somewhere. All of this angel/devil stuff is innate within us. It’s the mind vs. the heart. It’s the challenge within ourselves that we all have to face – and at some point, embrace. We all come here with these two opposing forces within us and hopefully we leave this place from the same beautiful facet of ourselves where we began – the heart. The mind will take you on a psychotic journey, but the heart will keep you present, and that’s the whole point of this blog today.
If you want to be present, drop down into your heart center. That’s where you truly exist and who you truly are. That limitless, intuitive, all-knowing, accepting, unconditional loving, source of energy. This is who we all are deep down inside. There are no exceptions, so stop thinking you are better than dude standing next to you in line, and pay attention to your source of navigation. Be aware of YOU, rather than getting lost in that maze of yours up there. And the amazing thing is, the instant you catch yourself in the prison of your mind, you can immediately drop down into that limitless place of yourself. No religious guilt involved, you see. Let go. Be free. Stand in the wholeness and vastness of who you truly are by navigating from your precious heart. YOU hold the key to your own experience of your life. Now isn’t that refreshing?