Feeling lost is a common hindrance among people. Feeling lost and harboring a terrible void that seems unfillable is what it often feels like to be human, yet we keep wandering and doing everything we can to divert ourselves from that emptiness. I know it all too well. There are temporary oasis’s from this great human dilemma. Religion, money, relationships, having children – all of these things outside of ourselves seem to ease the pain and misery, but what happens when these things aren’t going according to plan? What happens when we are left alone with ourselves? What do we do when religion doesn’t fill all spaces of the endless cavern within, or when the money gets boring, or when the romance dwindles, and the children become independent? What next? I mean we have a whole life to live, so why not find out what that void is really about, and admit wholeheartedly that we feel completely lost?
Suffering does not have to be part of your human experience. I’ll say it again – Your human experience does not have to include suffering. Suffering is a choice. It is not a mandatory rite of passage. Suffering is very simple to treat. Another word for suffering is called resistance. To ease your suffering the only thing you need to do is to surrender. Whatever circumstance is causing you to suffer is what you need to surrender unto. Say aloud, “I have no control. I cannot do this any longer. I am in pain. I am tired. I am angry. I am hurting. I am afraid. This is beyond my scope of expertise. This lifestyle is not working for me. I have no control over this person, place or thing. I am completely lost and I need help.” Whatever it is, it’s time to relinquish an idea that you will feel better if you can obtain whatever it is you are grabbing at in order to fill the void. The void is unfillable because it isn’t really a void at all. It’s your SELF that is longing for you to come home. It’s begging you to enter into the sacred space of yourself that knows all, sees all, and is all. There is nothing outside of you that can take the place of YOU. Everything you need is deep within yourself, but it will not be still until you stop ignoring it. Take a day or two, or three – or six months – to hang out with the void. The void will show you that it’s not out to get you. It won’t make you disappear, or take away from who you are. It will do the very opposite. It will show you that who you are is not what you present to the world. Who you are is so much more than you are trying to prove to the world.
Ego is a funny thing. It’s really sly, cunning, baffling and powerful (sound familiar, fellow addicts?). It wants you to think that you’ve got your life all figured out, and that you are doing everything right, but if you pay close attention you will notice how afraid it is to be found out. And when you are afraid to be found out (whatever that includes) this is a good indication that your ego is in full control of your life. Even if your ego pays its bills on time, works hard, is honest to a fault and keeps its appearances, it is quite afraid of you letting your guard down. It will resist people who come into your path and see your ego-mask very clearly. Those who see through you – you will most likely resist. This is when you know your ego is ruling your life, and it is a good thing you can see this, because it is the first step in becoming awake. It is an opportunity to come face to face with yourself and to relinquish the mask, which is keeping you from experiencing your life in its fullest. The ego does not want this because it is afraid that it will disappear and that it will be a boring nobody. This is what the ego tells you so that you don’t go searching for truth. It wants to be the center of attention you see – or for those of you who give so much of yourself that you lose yourself, your ego likes the idea of remaining a martyr, so it will tremble in the face of being discovered. If you are no longer a martyr, you will have to learn to trust the world, and this probably terrifies you. Giving so much of yourself that you lose yourself is a way to be in control, you see. But it is the same thing with those who have a need to be the center of attention – it is a way to be in control of not losing yourself. Deep down, we are all afraid to lose ourselves, but the funny thing is – to lose yourself is to fully discover who you are. This is the irony.
Stop being afraid to lose yourself. It is a lie your ego tells you so that it can remain alive and in control. Once you relinquish control, your suffering will cease. You will become vulnerable and open, and then you will see there is nothing to fear. Everything is working for your well-being, but not until you let go will you understanding this to its fullest. The ego is not a bad thing. It is there for a reason. It is part of the human experience, so to reject it is to cause an imbalance. Just like everything else, we must acknowledge and accept our ego as it is, but the key is to be aware of it, and to see past its illusion. We must move through the manipulation of the ego with grace, and also with gratitude for an understanding of its role in our experience.
If you feel lost today, and if the void feels like it is eating you alive – be not afraid to stand before it and acknowledge it with a spirit of surrender. If you want to live your life not feeling lost and afraid, then you must face these things in yourself. This is where the great journey of spirit begins. It always begins with surrender. You can either do it willingly, or the universe will find a way to do it for you, which usually includes some kind of shock or trauma. I chose the latter, but you don’t have to go my route. I’m giving you the key to living a dynamic life. Simply surrender, my friend. It’s literally that easy.