Sinking down into a place of complete acceptance, wherein all judgment ceases, feels as if my life is resting upon a down comforter. I didn’t realize how judgmental I still am, until I intentionally observed it in myself. I was accepting of many things, but not of others. It all hit me as I felt judgment coming from people, which prodded me to look at my own self. Trying to clear myself completely of judgment doesn’t exactly seem plausible, so instead of looking at the judgment, perhaps I can begin with acceptance. We tend to unsuccessfully abandon the negative parts of ourselves, rather than opening up to our positive aspects. The acceptance I have in my life, outweighs the judgment, so this is where I have decided to place my energy this week, and hopefully thereafter.
Acceptance is an incredible tool to use throughout the day. To set an intention of acceptance, is to create yourself a path of laughter. I know this from experience. Imagine one of those Mondays where everything goes wrong, from the time you wake up and hit your toe against the dresser, to dropping the shampoo several times in the shower, and finally there is an accident on the way to work, when you were already running late. Coffee spills, high volumes of phone calls, chronic problem solving at the office, you forget your lunch and your wallet; it’s just one of those days. But what if on this particular day, you had made an intention of “acceptance.” At some point, maybe between the coffee spilling and forgetting your wallet, wouldn’t you have to throw your head back and laugh?
I imagine acceptance as an internal smile. No matter what is occurring, you have this secret super hero power where nothing affects you negatively, because before it happens, you decide to be ok with it. There is so much compassion in this, and it certainly feels better than being angry and cussing out the dresser for being in the way of your toe. It also feels amazing to smile at the antics of the person at work who usually bugs you. By accepting them today, you are able to take nothing personally. You are graciously allowing them the space to be who they are without being annoyed by them. I would rather walk through my life with an attitude of acceptance, than feeling annoyed, angry, or frustrated. It simply FEELS better.
Human beings tend to think that life is better when everything is in place, exactly how they want it to be. In actuality, how you feel, is what truly creates your experience. If you can change the way you feel, your experience changes. I used to drink to feel good. This didn’t always pan out for me. Now it’s simply a matter of me being open to my experiences and not placing expectations on anything, which creates a calm and joyful experience in everyday situations.
I love it how gifts like acceptance are absolutely free. It’s a gift that continues giving, and it makes life so much more palatable. I highly suggest a daily practice of absolute acceptance.